Since our lives changed forever 18 years ago, when we lost Mari Lois at 25 weeks, we have tried to turn a negative into a positive. I vowed to make a difference to help the mums and babies that would be born in the future by raising funds to make sure that the right equipment is available to the staff who care for them.

I’ve always tried to be the hand that bereaved parents need. I’ve been told that I do help, but self-praise is something I don’t wish to do. I spoke to one dad: I said, “How are you?” and he said “Fine.” His wife said “It’s Llinos, she’s from Sands,” and he burst into tears and said they were both finding it very difficult, not knowing what to do. Dads don’t like to admit they’re hurting too.

I’m proud of our group; the same thing is important to all of us – to support anyone who needs it and try to help with their pain. I wish I could take it all away, but knowing someone else who can share with them is what helps the most. I look forward to the future now that all three hospitals in our area have a bereavement room.”

Heatherjane Coombs, Welsh Network Coordinator said: “Llinos has raised a great deal of money over the years and as the sole befriender for many years has helped many parents.”

Llinos has been nominated as part of 40 volunteers for #Sands40. Join them at Sands 40th Anniversary Conference on 17th November 2018 in Glasgow. 

Sands is marking its 40th anniversary this year and we would like to say thank you for the incredible support and contribution that our dedicated volunteers make across the UK to support bereaved parents and anyone affected by the death of a baby. 

We will be hosting an awards ceremony during the Sands 40th Anniversary Conference to celebrate the wide range of volunteering involvement in Sands and acknowledge 40 volunteers for their dedication and commitment.