A miscarriage is when pregnancy loss takes place or a baby dies in the uterus (womb) before 24 completed weeks of pregnancy.
Molar pregnancy is when a pregnancy begins with too much or too little genetic material to survive.
Ectopic pregnancy is when a pregnancy develops outside the uterus (womb).
Many different experiences are described as miscarriage, so one person's experience may be very different from another's. Whatever your experience, and whatever stage of pregnancy you reached, please know that our support is here for you.
There are many families affected by miscarriage in the Sands community. Connecting with others can show you that you have far more in common than you expected.
Our Helpline is open 10am to 3pm Monday to Friday and 6pm to 9pm Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday evenings. You can also call us on 0808 164 3332 or email the team at helpline@sands.org.uk
Alternatively, you can find out other ways we offer support and more information in our Bereavement Support book.
If I had a miscarriage, am I a bereaved parent?
Different people prefer to use different words to talk about pregnancy and baby loss. At Sands we support many people who would describe themselves as bereaved parents following miscarriage, and others who don't. What is most important is that you use the words you feel comfortable with. We also understand that grief is not related to the length of a pregnancy, and that emotions when a pregnancy ends very early can be just as intense as when it continues to full term.
You may or may not have told people about your pregnancy before the miscarriage. How you share your news and what you choose to share is completely you to you.
What happens in a miscarriage?
If you miscarriage naturally in the first trimester of pregnancy, you are likely to experience bleeding and cramps. If a miscarriage happens in the second trimester, it may follow the stages of labour. Sometimes there may be medical or surgical intervention to speed up the process or to ensure that it is completed. The length of time between a pregnancy ending and miscarriage taking place can vary. If you have been told that your pregnancy has ended, or your baby has died, it is important that you are given the information you need so that you can make an informed choice about your medical care. If you miscarry at home, it is also important that you seek medical attention.
Remembering your baby
There are many ways of making memories, but not all of them are possible with very tiny babies born in the early stages of pregnancy. For example, if you would like hand or footprints to be taken, please talk to your midwife or other healthcare professional about whether or not they are able to do this.
There is no legal requirement to have a burial or cremation for a baby born before 24 weeks of pregnancy, but some people choose to do so, or to have a memorial, and your local funeral direction will be able to discuss options with you.
You may find it helpful to read the pages on Remembering your Baby and Saying Goodbye to your Baby in our Bereavement Support Book.
Miscarriage and the law
Although the emotions associated with miscarriage may not be any different from other types of baby loss, there are legal differences. Parents are only entitled to maternity and paternity leave after 24 weeks of pregnancy, but we encourage all employers to be compassionate and ensure that employees receive the support they need. You may find it useful to read our information on Pregnancy and Baby loss at Work, and to share it with your manage or employer.
We hear from many people who have been through miscarriage how important it is to have a record of their baby. Although you will not be able to register your baby's birth, it is now possible to apply for a certificate of pregnancy loss in England Scotland and Sands can also provide a certificate.
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